On February 12, 2018, I escaped the cubicle life, and I’ve zero regrets for doing so. I miss the paycheck though – it’s much harder than you might think to stop seeing large chunks of money enter your bank account. No matter how much you already have in there. More on that later.
Life Since Leaving the Cube
I mentioned in my escape announcement that my focus would be on business, blogs, and baby, and it is indeed where I’ve spent my time. What I underestimated though was the amount of time each would take. Call me crazy, but sometimes I still think I should and can do it all. Even if it’s my own damn thing. Maybe especially then.
Anyway…I’ve filled the majority of my time with watching my granddaughter and getting two new websites up and running.
Blogs and Business
Vicki and I, along with a great team of writers and guest contributors are pumping out researched content 5, and sometimes 6, days per week on WomenWhoMoney. Our goal is to – Empower women with the knowledge, skills, and resources necessary to improve their financial health and ultimately build financially secure and independent lives.
On Women’sMoneyTalk, we publish some original content, but mostly we are sharing personal finance articles written by other female bloggers and podcasters through daily features, Monday thru Friday. Our goal here is to help create money conversations. We’ve got some other plans for the site, but we are also open to suggestions from what you might like to see there.
I’m continuing to do some freelance writing and got my first few – let’s call them not so positive comments – on my article, Why $1M Might Not Be Enough for My Retirement Dreams (or Yours) when it was picked up by Yahoo Finance. Clearly, people don’t read, and just get kicks from being negative.
Unfortunately, LifeZemplified took a backseat, but it won’t stay there. I’m passionate about financial independence and wellness. As is Vicki, so we’ve got plans for here too. I’d love to hear what you’d like to see more of and if you’ve got any specific questions on fitness or nutrition you’d want me to dive into.
My husband John and I did not get far with the other business idea this summer as I had no time and he got distracted by another idea. But that’s okay; we are both happy with where our focuses are right now.
While I receive a little bit of money from freelancing, and together Vicki and I are bringing in a small amount of revenue on our sites – mostly via sponsorship and content creation – it’s all going to expenses for running our websites and business.
Baby
I watched my granddaughter Monday through Friday, from late February until mid-June. Tomorrow it will start up again. My son-in-law was in an assistant teaching position, so he had the summer off, although I did watch her a day or two here and there. He’s starting a new job now, however, and will be working year-round now.
She’ll be nine months old in a few days, and the fun is just beginning! I’m getting tired just writing about it. 🙂 While it doesn’t earn me a paycheck it sure as hell beats the cubicle life.
Speaking of paychecks…
When I walked away from the burgundy fabric walls of my last job, I walked away from a nice salary (not six figures but relatively close) and benefits package. That part still stings sometimes.
I don’t miss the male egos, parking lot nazi’s (I still owe you that story), or mundane work, but I miss the big fat paycheck. Not because we need it (Thank You, Lord!). But because it would help us pull the trigger on John’s retirement sooner.
Seeing our bank accounts grow was addicting. And the withdrawal from that was hard, really hard. Night sweats and all. Oh, wait maybe that’s something else…ah midlife.
It’s not like I haven’t been without a paycheck before. But then I didn’t earn as much, and I wasn’t in hot pursuit of financial independence. Fortunately, we’ve reached the double-comma club, and the market is still being kind. Unless the next downturn is extremely cruel, we should remain there.
I’ve seen others mention how it’s hard to go from accumulating your nest egg to spending it. But we aren’t to the spending point yet. John is still earning, and we are still accumulating, just not as quickly. Now though, I understand a little bit more about what it might be like when no paychecks are coming in.
If you’ll be leaving a paycheck behind any time soon be ready for this. Like anything, you can research and read about other’s experiences, and think you’re prepared. Then reality hits, and it’s usually different from what you expected.
Good Just Not Quite Zemplified
Finances
As touched on above, our finances are continuing to do well, but the accumulation has slowed without my paycheck. We’ve nearly tripled our net worth from the end of 2012 though, and our hopes for retirement are still on track for 2020, although we may need one more year.
We’ve still been very mindful of spending with no significant changes to report.
Fitness
I’ve been slacking on fitness a bit. I’m still getting in some walking and strength training but not as much as I should be to get Younger Next Year.
When working, I would get a few walks in each day around the office park and then again later in the day at our local state park or on our treadmill in the basement. Once I started watching my granddaughter things changed, and I’ve not quite got into a consistent routine.
With all that being said, I’ll rate myself as fair on fitness. Because I am active, but not anywhere close to meeting the requirements for MySonsFather’s 5 million step challenge I’d hope to complete.
Food & Nutrition
I keep my eating pretty clean for the most part; otherwise, I suffer from migraine symptoms. But I’ve not tried out or created any new recipes lately. And we’ve eaten out more than usual these past three months due to vacations, celebrations, and other family get-togethers. Time to dial all this in.
Fun
For me blogging is fun. Most of it anyway. So I’m doing something I enjoy every day. But I need to break away from the computer more. Or at least that’s what my mom tells me, and even at 50 I still sometimes listen to my mom.
In June, John and I drove in the Hot Rod PowerTour – seven days in seven different cities, over 2600 miles for us in total. We saw some cool things, meet some great people – including Mr. & Mrs. Groovy – and had a lot of fun. We’ve attended a few other car shows this summer, including the big Woodward Dream Cruise.
We’ve also gotten out to our cottage quite a few times this summer and kayaked on the lake. And we tried to spend as much time as possible with my son and his girlfriend before they moved to California. He’s been gone two weeks, and I miss him a ton but am excited for him and her as they embark on this next phase of their lives. Hoping to visit them soon!
So Life is Good! I’m incredibly fortunate and very grateful for it all. I just need to do a better job at taking care of myself, so I can enjoy life for many years to come. And that means simplifying some things and finding more Zen.
What’s Next
More of the same, with tweaks to get better. More on that soon.
I genuinely enjoy what I am doing. I’ve found a great partner in Vicki, and we balance each other out well. I can’t thank enough the people who have helped us – our team of writers, contributors, sponsors, readers, spouses, family, and you too – but I’ll try. So, Thank You!
If you’ll be at FinCon 2018, please say hello!
Clearly, people don’t read, and just get kicks from being negative.
I hear ya Amy. One of my posts went viral on Reddit last week and I had my first trolls. Clearly some people just look for opportunities to disparage others, I guess to divert the pain of their pathetic lives.
Glad to hear you’ll continue this blog, you have a lot going on!
I’ve come to the same conclusion on those people, AF. Thank you! 🙂
My blog got noticed by a Baron’s reporter and got linked in an article on the 4% rule. Months later I am still getting traffic from it. No hate-spam yet. I really do not get why people would trash something they have not read.
I have found that having an Apple watch has improved my fitness level recently. It is great to care for family tho.
That’s great you are still getting traffic and it’s all been positive. Great to hear your fitness level is increasing too, keep that up!
Good morning, Amy!
Wow, I didn’t know you and Vicki had two websites. I’ll have to read some of the content on Women’s Money Talk.
Glad to see that you are doing well and enjoying time with your granddaughter.
I hope to see you at FinCon!
-Jerry
Hi Jerry…yes we are staying busy. 🙂 Yes, I hope to meet you soon in Orlando!
I imagine that is a big adjustment and a feeling that can’t quite be explained until it’s reality! Glad you are able to enjoy this sweet time with your granddaughter and hope the rest of the year brings lots of zen your way:] FinCon– I’ve got my fingers crossed for next year, timing wasn’t good this year but it’s something I definitely want to do!
Thanks, Misty. We’ll miss meeting you this year but hopefully we can soon!
Thanks for the update, Amy! Sounds like you fit a ton of the good stuff into your life after the cubicle! Like you, I have kept busy this summer (all good stuff) and need to get back into my fitness routine. I can’t wait to meet you at FinCon! 🙂
And I can’t wait to meet you, Amanda! I’m still counting on buying you that lemonade I couldn’t last year 😉
I just took a month break between jobs, and don’t like not getting the salary. Will be happy once it is back. Didn’t really expect that..
Yeah, it’s weird. Good luck in your new position!
Sounds like you’re staying super busy outside the cubicle! I haven’t found my groove quite yet to make sure I get that balance of exercise, healthy eating and relationships since quitting my job (at least in the office) yet either. I guess it’s just one of those ongoing things that we just keep working on. I’m looking forward to catching up with you at FinCon!
Hey, Katherine! You’ve had a lot going on too. I hope everyone is settling in and the kids are enjoying their new school. YES looking forward to catching up!
Ahh!! See you at Fincon!!! Would love to hear the parking lot nazi story, I can’t even imagine what it could possibly mean….superiority over a space on the ground???
Girl, I can’t wait to meet you! Yep…the things people think are important.
That is really great you are able to help out your daughter and son-in-law with care taking for your granddaughter.
Thanks for the honest look. Leaving work is not a panacea for what ails us but it does open so many opportunities as you’ve described.
Thanks, Drew. Congrats again on your recent baby news! 🙂
Thanks for the update Amy! Life goes fast and gets busy when you are having fun 🙂 hope to chat with you at FinCon – we are similar in that we are both creatives and doers, but have to remember that stress is a real thing and can get the best of us if we aren’t careful!
Have a great day and looking forward to seeing you soon 🙂
Hey Erik! I really hope we can chat at FinCon this year. I’d like to hear all about your goings on first hand. Yes…we should be destress buddies…
You might be the busiest retiree I’ve ever known! 😉
I love it and I’m glad your enjoying what your doing. Looking forward to seeing you in a couple weeks!!
— Jim
HA! Kind of why I avoid that word. 🙂 Thanks, Jim, see you soon!
My goal is FI and RE has crossed my mind several times. It is nice to read about some of the realities of that especially when it comes not having a big paycheck anymore. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks, Jude. The effect really surprised me. It might not get everyone but it’s good to know about just in case.
It’s funny how you can feel like you’ve been SO active running around after a kid and then your steps don’t seem to reflect that. Lots of short bursts and lots of paying close attention lol
Exactly! I must say I’m pretty tired from this first week lol. Good thing it was only 4 days.
Almost two years for us since pulling the plug on the 9 to 5 and I’m still not totally used to the lack of those pay checks. But you had an even stronger reason for leaving the “regular” work world and that gives you perspective on all the adjustments you’ve had to make.
It was so great meeting you and John. Now every time I see a classic car that looks even remotely like yours, I think of you both.
Thanks for the mention!
I guess when you receive paychecks for so many years it’s bound to be weird when you aren’t.
Hoping we can meet up again sometime soon!
I quit my job 3 years before my husband and I didn’t realize until after the first year how much money we were saving. It took doing the taxes and then readjusting correctly to the smaller amounts we owed. I hope that happens for you guys.
Love that truck. We had my Dad’s 63 Ford, with only 78,000 original miles until 2013. We sold it at it’s 50 year anniversary. It was a long bed, so I am now aware that your short bed is worth a pretty penny. Maybe it boost your net worth!
I’ll be at FinCon and I hope to meet you and Vicki. It’s getting close!
Good to know, Susan. I hope we find that too.
Thanks. Ours was actually a long bed that John shortened to do the conversion so not sure how much it’d draw now. But we have fun with it.
Great, I’ll definitely be looking for you.
I tried, when my son was about 3, to make my fitness routine the “follow a toddler and do what they do all day” routine. It lasted a half hour (pretty impressive, I think!) and I was spent! Who says you can’t work out while you’re watching kids?
I really like the perspective you’re presenting here. Rather than the sunshine-and-rainbows stories we often fantasize about in the FI community, this feels very real. I am so far away from being FI at this point, and it’s good to know what it might feel like for real once I start getting closer. Thanks for sharing!
Ha, yes a half hour is impressive! It was a tiring week. 🙂 Thank you, I appreciate you stopping by and commenting!
It sounds like you have a lot going on! Congrats on getting picked up by yahoo finance. Don’t worry about the haters. Just keep doing you!
Thanks, FP! I’m trying 🙂
Great “catching up” with you, Amy (tho it’s bad when it takes me this long to get to your post, right?). Wow, retirement really IS busy, isn’t it! I suspected I’d have MORE time to write, but I’m finding the opposite to be true. I can empathize with how watching your grandchild interferes with your routine, but imagine that sharing that special time is a true gift for you. Nice to see your work on the WomanWhoMoney site, great to have a strong presence focused on financial issues for woman, and you and Vicki are the perfect team to lead it all up. Congrats!
Hey Fritz! I’m a bit too busy it seems 🙂 But yes, time with the granddaughter is priceless. Thanks for the kind words. Going to miss you at FinCon this year!
I just gave up my Airbnb paychecks, which were ~$4k a month, so I feel your pain on this one. It’s really hard, even knowing there’s something better!
When Mrs. Groovy and I first stumbled upon Mr. Money Mustache’s blog and his “Shockingly Simple Math” post in 2013 or 2014, we did a quick back of the envelope calculation and discovered that we achieved the 25 times rule. But we didn’t FIRE until 2016. Reason why? 2016 was the year I turned 55 and became eligible for my government pension. Since I was 16 years old, I had a payroll check coming my way every one or two weeks. And the thought of not having money coming in on a regular basis was too scary to contemplate. So Mrs. Groovy and I suffered two or three additional years of cubicle life just to avoid the loss of a paycheck. I feel your pain, Amy. I look forward to your thoughts on this matter in the future. My guess is that the fear of being paycheck deprived is not as bad as we suppose. Oh, and just so you know, the highlight of this summer for Mrs. Groovy and me was meeting you and John. You guys are truly great people, and we’re so happy for you with your success on the home front and the blogging front. Cheers.