Last weekend I went shopping with my daughter and mom. It was the first time I visited a mall in years. I quickly remembered why. From the moment you enter the doors, it’s non-stop smells, sights, and sounds. Marketing mayhem at it’s finest.
This day we were on a mission, shopping for a special occasion dress for my daughter. Thus, I made every attempt to cut out the ‘noise’ and focus on her and what she needed to find. We walked the entire mall, but only entered approximately ten stores. After she had tried on roughly the same number of dresses, we all settled on one.
We then drove to another nearby shopping center to search for shoes and accessories as we had no luck at the original mall. After six hours that included a break for lunch, the mission was accomplished, and I was delighted to be going home.
On the drive home, my thoughts went back to the mall and department stores. No wonder a large number of people are living paycheck-to-paycheck. The constant bombardment of advertising and gotta have merchandise, is enough to drive many into debt and almost one insane.
To Save Money Stop Shopping
People that don’t understand the difference between a need and a want may never achieve financial freedom, and that saddens me. I’m worried that many currently don’t have adequate funds for emergency expenses let alone retirement savings or even a plan to get there.
If this is you, please consider creating a different story for yourself. The first thing I recommend is to stop friggin going to the mall. If you want to save money stop shopping. No that doesn’t mean you can’t go to the grocery store or buy a needed item.
What it does mean is don’t just go to the store for the ‘fun’ of it. Don’t go window shopping. Don’t just browse. And certainly, don’t go shopping because you think you ‘deserve’ something new for all your recent hard work.
To Save Money Stop Shopping
Because most inevitably you will buy something. Something you don’t need. An item that was on sale that you thought you couldn’t pass up. More stuff. And for what?
Do yourself and your loved ones a favor. Save Money, stop shopping. If you absolutely need an item, go get just that item. Put on some proverbial blinders and ignore the sights, sounds, and smells of marketing, and just purchase what you went for.
This includes online shopping too. Stop browsing. Remove your credit or debit card info from your shopping sites so that it’s not easy to make a purchase. Uninstall shopping apps from your phone. Make it difficult to spend money and instead make it easy to save.
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There’s More to Life
I was never a big clothes shopper, but in the past, I did enjoy shopping for things for our home. Visiting Pier I, World Market, Home Goods, Lowe’s, and more used to be fun for me. That all changed a few years ago thanks to finding a couple of personal finance blogs and learning about the path to real financial independence.
Now I remember what real fun and joy are. Exploring the outdoors on hikes with my husband or mom. Kayaking on the lake at our family cottage. Golfing with my son. Playing board games or cards with the whole family. DIY or upcycling projects. Watching my children laugh. Seeing my mom thriving in her retirement.
Do we occasionally give into a want? Sure, we are only human after all, but it’s usually thought out and not just succumbing to marketing or what others are doing. Although sometimes I still worry about John going to Home Depot.
We are valuing a financially secure future over a moment of potential happiness from unnecessary new gadgets, clothing, or sporting equipment. I hope you’ll consider doing the same. Like us, you’ll probably find it’s not as hard as you think and it’s so much more rewarding in the end.
To Kick Junk Food, Don’t Bring it Home
Later in the evening, my thoughts continued along similar lines but this time around food and the quest for healthier eating and weight loss.
I often hear people say that they didn’t want to eat the cookies in their cupboard or the ice cream in their freezer, but they just couldn’t stop themselves.
Want to know a quick solution to that problem. Don’t have the cookies, ice cream, potato chips or other junk food in the house. It’s that simple. Maybe for some, it doesn’t feel that easy, but it really is that simple. If it isn’t available, you won’t eat it.
If you are really hungry, you will eat something else. Not real hunger and the so-called craving will pass.
Perhaps you are just thirsty, drink some water. Think you need something sweet, eat a piece of fruit with nuts. Just dying for some chocolate, drink a cup of flavored coffee or tea with stevia if you need a sweetener. Want something crunchy, eat some carrots with hummus or some celery with nut butter.
Many times we think we are hungry and it’s really not hunger. It’s often boredom or stress. There are endless ways to deal with this.
- Go for a walk or bike ride
- Engage in a conversation with another
- Do something creative
- Chew some gum
- As previously mentioned drink some water, or other non-caloric beverage
- Turn on some music and dance, just dance
Want To Save Money Stop Shopping, Want To Kick Junk Food Don’t Bring It Home
Continuing to eat junk food is only hurting you. Like money, our health is only as valuable as we make it. And one without the other will not create a happy and joyful future.
It starts with a decision. A valuable decision only you can make. Stuff or junk now or greater freedom tomorrow. What will you decide?
As always, please feel free to reach out to me with any questions you have or assistance you are looking for, and feel free to share any comments below.
Be well –
Amy
Vicki@MakeSmarterDecisions says
Love this, Amy! We hate shopping. If we have to go to a mall, we make it a quick event – in and out. I’d rather get my steps in outside than “window shopping” any day! And that’s great advice about junk food too. Now that both my kids are into healthier diets, we don’t even miss having junk food in the house. We used to have cookies and other snacks for a treat in their lunches and for bed-time snacks. Now it’s a lot of fruit and greek yogurt. And we don’t miss the junk at all 🙂
Amy says
Thanks, Vicki! Yes!! So good to hear. Glad for all the family that you guys cut out the junk.
Mrs Groovy says
Haha. There’s no junk food in our house except for weekends when Mr. Groovy gets his pint of Ben & Jerry’s. Lately it’s been lasting until the following weekend.
I still like meandering through Pier 1 and I also enjoy World Market. But I only go into those stores with the the intention of buying something specific. I don’t like malls at all. They make me too claustrophobic.
Amy says
Nice on the no junk food…and Mr. G stretching out his treat.
Pier 1 has always been my favorite although I haven’t been there in a few years. Yes, got to go with a specific purpose or leave the wallet at home. 🙂
jumpstartfromscratch says
Great post. My wife was in a habit of going shopping every Saturday morning with her mother. A couple of years ago, they switched to doing projects around one of the houses, and it has made a huge difference in the budget.
Amy says
That’s great they got out of that cycle. I had an aunt who shopped out of habit like that, she’s now deceased but my uncle is still having to work in his mid 70’s just to survive.
Glad your budget is enjoying their new habit. Thanks for stopping by and commenting Mr. JS.
Danielle says
Great key pieces of information, Amy! I don’t like to go to the mall either…it’s too intense and I’m always so scatterbrained! I can’t stand it. You’ll likely find me in local thrift stores or the clearance aisles of Target lol.
Amy says
Hi Danielle, thanks for reading and the comment. Definitely so intense at the malls!
Lauren @Millennial Dollar says
I’m so glad you brought up the online shopping habit as well. E-commerce just makes spending money on things you don’t NEED way too easy!
I love tennis shoes so I literally don’t even allow myself to go to my favorite shoe site anymore. Every time I do I find something I love and then I can’t stop thinking about it and then I gotta have it.
Yes, I find deals. But when I find one deal I find three deals then I all of a sudden have three new pairs of shoes.
Amy says
Ah yes, Lauren, been there done that in the way past. And yes, not visiting the site really helps! Good to hear from you, thanks for reading.
MustardSeedMoney says
I would think it’s especially tough to work at the mall. All day you are surrounded by amazing sights and smells from the time you walk into work, during your breaks and then as you’re leaving. I’m sure I would spend way more of my paycheck on things that I perceive as wants if that was the case. Definitely glad I work in a sterile building away from tons of things. Otherwise I might fall into the trap 🙂
Amy says
I think you are right MSM! Definitely a want factory lol. I’m with you. If we need to work, better it’s somewhere we won’t spend money.
Emily Jividen says
I’m pretty fortunate that home goods just aren’t practical for us…we have way more of most things than we can use anyway, and would do better in getting rid of some of it than adding. And eliminating promotional emails would really help me…especially the book bargain sites that have been a downfall lately.
I struggle with the eliminating junk food’s presence. When I try not to buy it, Jon just fits in an extra grocery trip to stock up so that he and our daughter have their snacks and ice cream. At least I try to pick up the stuff they like that I don’t. Unfortunately there seem to be a lot fewer of those these days, which is why my goal has been to eliminate it during the week rather than eliminating it from my diet for good.
Amy says
Hi Emily, thanks for stopping by. That’s good you realize it’s time to eliminate rather than add, I know for reading your blog you are working on clearing some things out. Yes, unsubscribing from marketing emails is very helpful!
Living with others who are not interested in eating better is definitely difficult. Being able to educate them about food without sounding nagging is where it’s at. Sugar and processed foods are not good for anyone. But I understand it takes time to wrap our heads around these things especially when that’s all you see everywhere. Continued learning and paying attention to how our bodies react to things really helps. Some progress is better than none so that’s great when you can avoid it.
Matt @ Optimize Your Life says
I have found this to be super true about junk food. The biggest thing that helped me lose weight before my wedding was just not keeping it in the house. I can’t really do moderation with junk food. If I eat one cookie, I’ll just keep eating them until it is time for bed or I run out. Making it so that I would have to specifically run to the store just for junk food basically killed that unhealthy habit. And after a while, my cravings for junk food dropped off.
I am usually still good about this, but if I am hungry when I am at the grocery store I will sometimes come home with a bag of chocolate. Next up is making sure I plan enough in advance that I am never hungry at the grocery store.
Amy says
Hi Matt, I’m glad to hear it works for you too. Ah yes, never go to the grocery store hungry. 🙂