Feeling Stuck May Not Mean What You Think
We all get stuck. Literally, we find ourselves stuck in traffic or the grocery checkout line, stuck with curly or straight hair, and even stuck in the mud.
Additionally, we may feel stuck figuratively at a dead-end job, in a relationship, on a problem, or stuck in life. Here is the thing though, we are not really stuck we just think we are. We’ve caught ourselves up in feeling our thinking, and it becomes our perceived reality.
Yet the simple truth is that our sense of the world originates from a single thought, which we happened to grab hold of with an iron grip. Just one thought from the gazillion that runs through our minds.
“No matter where you go or what you do, you live your entire life within the confines of your head.” ~ Terry Josephson
What is simple, but not always easy to see, is that our perceived reality changes when we just let go of the thought.
Change our movie script and our life changes in an instant. Just yell cut and redirect the action with a new thought. Moreover, if the new scene playing out in our movie is not to our liking either, we may change it again. Permission automatically granted.
Thoughts are constantly experienced, and new thoughts continuously come and go. Allowing ideas to move on and not become trapped is freeing. Further, permitting thoughts to flow naturally settles the mind for innate creativity, intuition, and wisdom to come through.
When you understand life is meant to be lived from the inside-out, instead of from the outside-in, you begin actually living it. There is nothing you must do. No techniques, tricks, or ‘brain-washing’ involved. It is a simple, natural, common sense understanding that we all possess.
Movement away from this simple understanding – our natural wellness – results from attachment to our thoughts.
“The leader who exercises power with honor will work from the inside out, starting with himself.” ~ Blaine Lee
We become conditioned to believe the higher grade, bigger house, faster car, marriage, new job, or different shoes even, will make our lives better. We may also believe that what someone says about us, does to us, or does not do to us, makes us feel a particular way or emotion.
This outside-in approach, that something on the outside will make us happy, content, or proud on the inside, does not work. Oh, it may for a day, a week, or even a month, but then it doesn’t anymore, and we find ourselves wanting the next thing. Then, we hope for another compliment or promotion, or we remodel our house, buy a sportier car, or yet another pair of shoes.
It doesn’t need to be this way. In fact, it is not meant to be this way. We are designed to live from the inside-out, with our basic knowledge, creativity, and natural resilience.
“The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” ~Albert Einstein
Every one of us is born with natural health – a natural ability to experience clarity, wisdom, and peace of mind, without even trying. It is inherently within us. All of us. Yes, every single human on Earth.
From Stuck to Letting Go
I struggled with outside-in thoughts for years. I was addicted to people pleasing and the more-more-more mentality. If I could get the approval of others by what I did, what I had, or how I looked, then I felt worthy and loved. HA! Seems so funny and transparent to me now, but when I was in those thoughts, I was living those thoughts. They were my movie, my life.
Self-help books filled my library. I had the false belief that reading the right book would lead to the right technique, the right exercises, or checking of the right box, and things would improve. Success, happiness and most of all love would be mine. But, it did not work. I was looking in all the wrong places, watching and believing a bogus film.
“Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” ~ Steve Jobs
Finally, I discovered an article written by Dr. Amy Johnson, Ph.D., which began to change my world. I bought and read her book, Being Human, and I began to see things differently. How life actually was. And, the more I learned, the more I was able to let go and allow life to happen with my intuition to guide me. The more I allowed that to happen, the more life changed.
Life continues to change. While the change is sometimes slow and occasionally messy, it is also natural and effortless when I just let it happen. Sure, at times I try to force it by reading more books and over thinking. However, the “aha” moments cannot be yanked out. They arrive on their own, when needed most, and when ready to see them.
Allowing thoughts to come and go naturally, has me living life differently than before. I live out in life, not stuck in my mind about life. Now, in my late 40’s (okay almost 50), I finally feel the best I ever have (imperfect and all), inside and out. Further, I look forward to what is yet to come, confidently practicing living in wellness – mind, body, and soul.
How about you? Are you stuck in your thoughts or are you living in wellness?